I recently came across a quote online that really moved me. I had never heard of the man who said it (Matthew Hussey), and a quick online search led me to some very mixed reviews of him. He is a “dating” expert who seems to mostly give advice to women on finding the right man. I don’t appreciate or support this heteronormative standard and would possibly disagree with many of his perspectives. YET I still find this sentiment profound and worth sharing.
“Imagine for a moment, at the beginning of your life, you were given a human and you were told you have one job for the rest of your life: you have to take care of this human.
Most of us have not realized that that’s our job. We finish our parenting where we were raised by somebody else; we go out in the world and we start looking for someone else to show up for us. But WE are our human. The only person who’s truly here to take care of me is me. She’s in my custody.
And when you wake up in the morning and you say: what would I do today if I was taking care of my human? The answer is completely different to what we do most days when we beat ourself up, when we put ourself around toxic people, and this is the big mistake: loving ourselves isn’t a feeling, it’s an approach. It’s a job. You don’t even have to like yourself today to love yourself. Liking yourself can come later with all of the ways you make yourself proud and all of the things you do.
Loving yourself today is your job. And we have to start taking that job seriously because we are our human.”
Artwork credit:
Title: Mother’s Embrace Creator: Galanda, Mikuláš Date: 1936/1938 Providing institution: Slovak national gallery Aggregator: Slovak national gallery Providing Country: Slovakia Public Domain Mother’s Embrace by Galanda, Mikuláš – Slovak national gallery, Slovakia – Public Domain.
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